Ten Truths about Blowjobs: Best Blowjob Tips and Facts

I remember the first time I got cheated on. My ex told me, “I couldn’t resist her. She looked like this Mexican pornstar.”

After that, I went into a deep hole of research on pornstars and what men loved about them. Finally, I wondered, “Do I need to be a pornstar to keep a man?”

There’s a common cliché that men love women who are ladies in the streets and freaks in the sheets. But where do you even go to learn about blowjobs?

I came across this line in an article, “The mighty blow job—intimidating for sure, but probably one of the best sex acts to have in your pleasure arsenal.” There’s nothing like the act of oral sex. You are in total control of someone’s pleasure. Their only job is to receive it.

Must Know Facts about Blowjobs

Here are some truths I’ve tried and tested on giving blowjobs:

1. Sex-ed doesn’t cover blowjobs. We don’t learn about giving and receiving pleasure. It’s all about preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancies in school. You’re going to have to learn on your own. Do your research. Ask for tips from friends and gay guys who have the best-unfiltered suggestions. (Check out our episode on blowjobs with Sef Loseo.) Read and watch. Ask your partner. And don’t forget to practice safe oral sex. Both of you get a comprehensive test which means blood work and swabbing mouth and genitalia. You can also give a blowjob while there’s a condom on.
2. Enthusiasm is a big turn-on. Several magazines like Cosmopolitan will always list ‘eye contact’ as a common turn-on. So, don’t skimp on your eye contact. Look deeply and longingly. Men can tell if you’re not into it. You can even say that you enjoy giving him a blowjob. Every man wants to know you appreciate his penis. It’s a big ego boost.
3. Use your hands. You can tickle or massage his balls. Or connect your mouth to your hands while sucking it, up and down. It’s a myth that the best blowjobs are hands-free.
4. Surprise him with a deepthroat. Yes, the gag reflex happens. But some women practice on popsicles or fruit. Men will often guide your head and see if you’re up for a deepthroat. Go with it. It gives the feeling of him being inside you deeply.
5. Keep it wet. A dry mouth is not pleasurable. So, you can either lube it up or keep a glass of water beside your bed. You can try Jellytime’s flavorless lube, which is edible. Some even spit on the penis. Don’t be shy. Oral sex can be messy and fun at the same time.
6. Do not use your teeth ever. It hurts for men. Instead, try other textures like a feather or silk or play with temperatures like an ice cube. A minty candy can also be refreshing for some.
7. Be present. Take your time. Invest in some foreplay. You can slowly take off his clothes. Don’t watch the clock or even dare to ask, “Are you close?” Men will feel performance anxiety when we want them to relax and enjoy oral sex.
8. Use a sex toy. Your sex toys can be the perfect addition during oral play. Men can also experience a blended orgasm by arousing two erogenous zones. You can try using a vibrating toy like the Bobble or Chinchilla on zones like the inner thighs, nipples, and perineum (the area between the anus and scrotum).
9. Build momentum. Every penis is different. And often, penetrative sex is indicative of what they like in terms of the blowjob rhythm. Pay attention and try to imitate oral sex. You can also try edging, getting him close to orgasm but stopping a few times. This often leads to a more intense orgasm.
10. Give head in an adventurous spot. Whether outdoors, in the car, or during a holiday, the act of the unexpected will surely turn him on. Remember, novelty is a superb aphrodisiac.

Bonus tip: I read in this list that you should pretend to say the word “purple” while sucking the penis. This word forms your lips into a pleasurable pout. Try it, and tell me what they think.


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One final truth that I learned from blowjobs is that every penis is different. And preferences all vary. You must play (safely!) and go on a pleasurable journey of trial and error. Only then will you get more comfortable in the bedroom. The more confident you are in giving one; the more enjoyable it is for your partner.

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