How blindfold sex made me orgasm better

Have you ever been blindfolded? It's a thrilling experience for anyone that likes control. Of course, you'll feel squeamish at first. But your body and mind will let go at a certain point. And it's the most satisfying experience. 

Once, my partner surprised me by pulling out an eye mask from our nightstand. I thought he was telling me it was time for bed. But instead, he put it over my eyes and kissed me slowly. 

When it comes to sex, we often think of the importance of engaging all our senses - touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound. However, there's another side to the story: sensory deprivation. 

Studies suggest that depriving our senses can enhance sexual arousal and pleasure. Sensory deprivation involves limiting or completely removing one or more of our senses. In my case, being blindfolded by my partner limits my sight. It felt very much like 50 Shades of Grey or Sex/Life. 

So, what did I feel about my first experience with blindfold sex? 

I had heightened sensitivity. With every touch, I got goosebumps, most especially in the erogenous zones like nipples and neck. But every inch of my body felt like one giant erogenous zone. 

When we deprive ourselves of one sense, our brain compensates by enhancing the others. For example, when we limit sight, our understanding of touch becomes more sensitive. This heightened sensitivity can lead to more intense and pleasurable sensations during sex.  

There was also an increased focus between us. It's hard to be present during sex at times. I'm thinking of what I need to do and some of my physical imperfections. Having sight gone for a moment made me more present during the act. 

You see, by limiting sight, we can focus more fully on the sensations we do feel. This can lead to greater awareness and appreciation of the physical aspects of sex and a deeper emotional connection with our partners. 

I was on the edge of the bed in anticipation. There's that element of surprise. And novelty can be such a great aphrodisiac. I loved not knowing what he would do next or even playing a guessing game in my mind. 

Sensory deprivation can also increase anticipation and excitement. When we don't know what's coming next, our brain fills in the gaps with fantasies and imagination. This can make sexual activity more thrilling and arousing.

Trust became more vital between my partner and me. Letting go teaches you to trust completely, and our bedroom became a safe space. It made me willing to try more new things. We even downloaded Erika Lust’s XConfessions app, which is an app that shows you a list of fantasies you can try. (Check out our conversation with her in part one and two.) 

Sensory deprivation can require a high degree of trust between partners. We become more vulnerable and reliant on our partners by relinquishing control over our senses. This can deepen trust and intimacy, leading to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

On that night, I came multiple times. And now, my sleep mask is no longer just for a good night's rest. There's a common saying, "give, and you shall receive." But in this case, I prefer to let go and receive. 

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If my blindfold sexual experience makes you curious even just a little bit, here are seven ways you can try it: 

1. Blindfold your partner during foreplay or sex to enhance their sense of touch and anticipation.
2. Get your partner to blindfold you; they can do whatever they want with you. 
3. Experiment with different textures and fabrics, such as silk or fur, to enhance tactile sensations.
4. Try different positions or locations to change the sensory experience and add an element of surprise.
5. Try a pleasure toy with a blindfold on. You'll feel the vibrations more intensely. 
6. Blindfold your partner and go down on them. Vice versa. 
7. Blindfold each other and masturbate together. 

For Jellytime's first anniversary, we want to give you a chance to try this experience. The first 100 toy purchases from the website will get an exclusive eye mask. And don’t forget to message us on Instagram @itsjellytime and tell us about your blindfold experience.